The Four Phases of Healing

The first time I encountered healing in the universe of spoken words was in my early 20s, with my first Reiki teacher. I had battled since childhood with quiet adversities, hiding my mediumship from both myself and the world. After many visits to doctors—each one telling me there was nothing wrong with my body—I found something entirely different through the light touch of a dear friend who welcomed me into Reiki.

I fell in love. It was gentle. It was loving. Healing didn’t feel like something I had to force—it arrived with patience, care, and the feeling of being truly safe. That moment marked the beginning of a new kind of study: a path toward understanding not just the unseen, but myself.

Through many twists and more difficult turns, I never forgot that first beginning—soft, tender, and open. That memory became an anchor. It showed me that healing rarely happens all at once.

It unfolds in layers, in rhythms, in moments when we're ready—whether we realize it or not. It’s not a linear path, but a living process, much like the blooming of a flower. Each phase brings its own teachings, challenges, and invitations.

The illustration below captures this beautifully: the gentle unfurling of something sacred.

Phase 1: Healing the Body

This is where we begin. With the physical. With the parts of us that ache, contract, shut down, or go numb. Before any spiritual insight can truly land, the body must feel safe enough to receive it.

This phase is about listening to what the body is saying—not overriding it. It's rest. Touch. Slowness. Reclaiming the body as a safe place to inhabit. Sometimes, just being able to breathe without tension is the beginning of profound transformation.

Phase 2: Accessing the Pattern

Once there’s a sense of safety, we begin to notice the patterns—those invisible frameworks that shape how we relate, react, and repeat. Some of them are personal. Others are inherited. Some are like background music we didn’t realize we’d been dancing to our whole lives.

Accessing these patterns isn’t about judging ourselves—it’s about witnessing. Seeing the systems that have been running the show so we can choose, maybe for the first time, to change the script.

Phase 3: Healing Body and Spirit

With awareness comes integration. The body and spirit start to speak to each other. Here, insight meets embodiment. Emotions move. Dreams return. A sense of connection begins to form—perhaps with something greater than ourselves, perhaps with the parts of us we thought were lost.

This is the phase where guidance comes through more clearly. Messages from Spirit, moments of insight, deep emotional release, and a clearer sense of purpose often arise here. It's a reconnection with your own spirit. A feeling of alignment starts to replace confusion. We begin to recognize our own inner wisdom.

Phase 4: Healing the Bloodline

As we go deeper, we begin to feel the echoes of those who came before us. The grief that isn’t fully ours. The fear that lives in our bones. The longing that spans generations.

Healing in the bloodline isn’t about fixing the past—it’s about choosing to carry it differently. To bless it. To offer back what no longer serves. To clear the way forward, not only for ourselves, but for those who follow.

This is the sacred work of remembering that healing is communal. Ancestral. Interconnected.

A Closing Thought

These phases are not a checklist. They are a rhythm, a cycle. You might pass through them in a single season or revisit them over many years. Sometimes, you’ll bloom. Other times, you’ll close back in, waiting for the next safe moment to open again.

And that’s okay. Healing is not a performance. It’s a return.
To presence.
To softness.
To wholeness.

The work we can initiate in one or three months is just a sketch—a glimpse of what this path can look like. It offers tools, language, and experiences to help you choose healing again and again.

The Going Deeper program is a mentorship for your own healing journey.

It’s not about fixing you but supporting your remembering. It invites you to listen, reflect, and reconnect so that healing becomes something you carry with you, not something you seek outside yourself.

True healing takes a lifetime. This is a living study—an invitation to witness what wants to come into peace and to reclaim the parts of yourself that were never truly lost.

You leave this work not with dependency but with empowerment.
With the ability to return to your tools.
To walk your path as a sovereign being, knowing what supports you best.

If you’re curious where you are in this process or want to explore this work more deeply, I invite you to book a session or explore the offerings available here.

With love,
Sofia